Recently I popped across the Atlantic to visit the heavenly state of California for a couple of days in LA and then of course…. for Coachella. I learnt a few lessons on this trip about myself and discovered my new lack of caring. Surrounded by beautiful people, this would normally be the prime time for my insecurities to come out of the cracks, but this time, they had gone on holiday themselves!
Summer months and holidays although my favourite time, always make me feel a little tinge of dread. I find it hard to dress for the warmer months because I find it harder to dress to flatter my body. My idea of what I want to wear and look like sometimes never actually makes me feel good and I think its safe to say a lot of us feel this way about certain areas of our bodies. Now I am one for preaching about wearing what you want regardless of it it’s flattering or not. I would never judge anyone for wearing something unflattering because if you like it than wear it. But if something makes you feel uncomfortable, well thats a different story.
I was a big fan of high wasted shorts for a very long time, but I’ve come to realise that I actually kinda hate wearing them now, or at least I’m a lot more picky with how I style them. Im a pear, so my body is small at the top (my top half is a size 10) but as soon as you go down to the belly, thigh and bum, we’re in size 12- 14 territory, so if anything I felt that some high waist shorts just drew too much attention to the area and sometimes made me look bigger than I was. I particularly find denim high waist shorts a problem as they are stiff, with not much shape, but its a shame because they’re so cool and on trend. In these images however, the high waist shorts are soft and flexible and I have worn them with a statement belt to clench me in at the waist.
A little bit of trial and error is essential to finding style that you love in the summer months, even in if your style ‘isnt on trend’ who cares? Some ‘on trend’ styles aren’t for everyone and especially in seasons where it is trickier to dress, doing your own thing is essential. Find what you are comfortable with and feel great in.
However in terms of my opinion on my body and myself, it is true when they say, as you get older you give less fucks. Although, I do find it a troubling time at times to dress for the summer, on the other hand, Im finding it easier to start letting go of my insecurities, mainly because I’m doing more things to feel good about myself. I work out frequently, I eat really good MOST of the time (lolz) and generally I think I’m pretty healthy. What more do I have to offer? Because I know I’m good to myself and I’m feeling stronger and fitter, the less I care about some cellulite on the back of my legs, or my tummy rolls. You start to learn that its more about whats on the inside.
Also remember – everything you see on social media is staged to appear perfect. Peoples postures and ‘good sides’ are all staged to portray themselves in the best possible light. Lets all start being kinder to ourselves and stop worrying about stupid things. Wear what makes you feel good.