Loosing my Summer Self Conciouness

Recently I popped across the Atlantic to visit the heavenly state of California for a couple of days in LA and then of course…. for Coachella. I learnt a few lessons on this trip about myself and discovered my new lack of caring. Surrounded by beautiful people, this would normally be the prime time for my insecurities to come out of the cracks, but this time, they had gone on holiday themselves!

Summer months and holidays although my favourite time, always make me feel a little tinge of dread. I find it hard to dress for the warmer months because I find it harder to dress to flatter my body. My idea of what I want to wear and look like sometimes never actually makes me feel good and I think its safe to say a lot of us feel this way about certain areas of our bodies. Now I am one for preaching about wearing what you want regardless of it it’s flattering or not. I would never judge anyone for wearing something unflattering because if you like it than wear it. But if something makes you feel uncomfortable, well thats a different story.

I was a big fan of high wasted shorts for a very long time, but I’ve come to realise that I actually kinda hate wearing them now, or at least I’m a lot more picky with how I style them. Im a pear, so my body is small at the top (my top half is a size 10) but as soon as you go down to the belly, thigh and bum, we’re in size 12- 14 territory, so if anything I felt that some high waist shorts just drew too much attention to the area and sometimes made me look bigger than I was. I particularly find denim high waist shorts a problem as they are stiff, with not much shape, but its a shame because they’re so cool and on trend. In these images however, the high waist shorts are soft and flexible and I have worn them with a statement belt to clench me in at the waist.

A little bit of trial and error is essential to finding style that you love in the summer months, even in if your style ‘isnt on trend’ who cares? Some ‘on trend’ styles aren’t for everyone and especially in seasons where it is trickier to dress, doing your own thing is essential. Find what you are comfortable with and feel great in.

However in terms of my opinion on my body and myself, it is true when they say, as you get older you give less fucks. Although, I do find it a troubling time at times to dress for the summer, on the other hand, Im finding it easier to start letting go of my insecurities, mainly because I’m doing more things to feel good about myself. I work out frequently, I eat really good MOST of the time (lolz) and generally I think I’m pretty healthy. What more do I have to offer? Because I know I’m good to myself and I’m feeling stronger and fitter, the less I care about some cellulite on the back of my legs, or my tummy rolls. You start to learn that its more about whats on the inside.

Also remember – everything you see on social media is staged to appear perfect. Peoples postures and ‘good sides’ are all staged to portray themselves in the best possible light. Lets all start being kinder to ourselves and stop worrying about stupid things. Wear what makes you feel good.

7 Comments

  1. 9th May 2017 / 5:24 pm

    Ah these pictures are beautiful, I mean to me you always look beautiful and have a sick sense of style. I’m glad your insecurities decided to go on holiday, I’ve always loved your style and your realism :)

    The Quirky Queer

  2. Martha
    10th May 2017 / 4:26 pm

    These photos are amazing, you look incredible! Nothing to be insecure about – but I know how you feel! It’s hard when you don’t fit the “standard size”, but you’re a big motivation for the rest of us to also let our insecurities take a back seat :)

  3. 16th May 2017 / 2:43 pm

    HELL YES to everything you’ve said here. I love how real you keep things. So strange, I had the same mini-epiphany myself this year – I was dreading my holiday because I hadn’t put in all the ”necessary”/usual diet & fitness prep and was already worrying about what I’d wear to cover up without it looking like I was trying to cover up… But then I just thought, y’know what, my friends are my friends because they like ME and they really aren’t going to care if I look a bit wobblier than they expected. The most important thing is to have fun! I reckon people are more attracted to good vibes than good looks!! PS you slay in every single photo here. Rx

    rosannaalicia.com

  4. Andrea
    17th May 2017 / 1:17 pm

    I’ve always been quite picky about my dress sense since my weight goes up and down all the time. I started to lose my love of fashion due to this, but it’s bloggers like you who help me remember that it’s not the be all end all of life, and I can dress however the hell I want! YES HELEN.

  5. Jess
    18th May 2017 / 12:32 am

    It’s lovely focusing on aspects of building up yourself and others thoughts in regard to body image. Such a lovely read, really appriciated ❤❤

  6. 20th May 2017 / 8:59 pm

    Gorgeous look for the summer. You have a gorgeous body and I love love love your tattoos. You’re very inspirational and I hope you know that. Lots of love xxx

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